I would like to share with you guys two bad examples of using your EQ. Yesterday, I had just arrived at my soccer practice, when I saw one of my teammates sitting on a corner of the parking lot crying. I sat down next to her and tried to calm her down. She was crying because of personal stuff, she was not having a good week. During practice, you could tell that something was happening to her. She was missing a lot of passes, shots and was also very distracted. Our coach is very strict, and he always wants us to do everything perfect. He yelled at her a couple times because she wasn’t doing things like she normally did. That obviously didn’t make things better. On the next exercise, she continued missing some balls and the coach yelled at her again. This time, my friend responded by yelling at him, you could tell she was frustrated. They both started yelling at each other until my friend refused to continue practicing. All of my teammates noticed during practice that something was wrong with her. But my coach was so focused on training that he didn’t notice or he just didn’t want people to get distracted from practice. I think both of them didn’t use their EQ in a right way. From my friend’s perspective, she should have talked to my coach before practice and inform him that she was having a bad day. On the other hand, my coach should have noticed that she was having a bad day (since she’s always focused on practice) and also should have been more patient with her.
I also agree that the coach should have handled the situation better. The fact that he/she is a high school coach he/she should be better at reading the emotions that her player was feeling because he/she is handling with teens. Teens could get very emotional and that was what happened in this case. I have a question though, did the coach ever find out that your friend had a bad day?
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