Behind Parenting:
When Too Much Is Not Enough
"7 Signs Your Over Parenting", "Are Kids Too Coddled?", "The Dangers of Over Parenting"...
So what is all this? These are just a few articles I have read about over parenting. Yes everyone, I'm sure many of you have experienced this, where your parents are constantly repeating themselves, lectures you until headaches emerge, worrying about every move you make, maybe doing everything and anything for you, and pushing you to do your best, until you start crying... Don't get me wrong, it's out of love. However, let me go into depth about the downfall, and yes, there is a downfall.
Think about these questions throughout this post: When is too much not enough? Here are some examples.
How many of you are familiar with McDonalds? And the expressions that "Bigger is better", "More is better". Well think if this. If everyone would eat 30 McMuffins everyday for years, heath problems would emerge because of 1) The portion size, 2) The lack of Nutrition, and 3), it just doesn't work.
In parenting, articles and collected data has shown that obsessive parenting lacks what kids need most: Support. Without the support from a parent, the child is constantly stressed. When all there is in a relationship in lectures, where is the companionship? Every person, from infancy to the age of 18, need guidance.
However, there is also the downfall to that. Then there is too much guidance, where the child becomes reliant on the parent for everything. Their whole world becomes dependent on their parents, and thus, makes becoming independent a brutal process.
In conclusion, don't get me wrong, parents do what they to raise their children the best they can. And so observers infer that there are parental techniques that work well and others that don't. We look up to our parents for everything, but sometimes their intentions don't work as well as planned.
In parenting, articles and collected data has shown that obsessive parenting lacks what kids need most: Support. Without the support from a parent, the child is constantly stressed. When all there is in a relationship in lectures, where is the companionship? Every person, from infancy to the age of 18, need guidance.
However, there is also the downfall to that. Then there is too much guidance, where the child becomes reliant on the parent for everything. Their whole world becomes dependent on their parents, and thus, makes becoming independent a brutal process.
In conclusion, don't get me wrong, parents do what they to raise their children the best they can. And so observers infer that there are parental techniques that work well and others that don't. We look up to our parents for everything, but sometimes their intentions don't work as well as planned.
Being a parent is probably one of the most difficult jobs that one does not get paid for. Parents try their best to accommodate their child's needs. Sometimes they look for their own parents for help but in most cases they disagree. I also think it is hard to compare a "good parent" to a "bad parent" since the kid could think they are great but other people look at them as crazy, or vice-versa.
ReplyDeleteI agree that when a parent goes too far in overprotecting a child, it only causes more problems. It either makes them overly dependent, and then they are completely lost when they live on their own, or the child becomes overly rebellious and creates detached and resenting relationships with their parents, that cause them more trauma and stress.
ReplyDeleteI agree that over parenting a child can cause many different issues. I believe two things can happen if a child is overprotected and given too much guidance. One is that a child will become completely dependent on their parents, making them unable to figure things out for themselves. The other is that a child will push away their parents, and become rebellious, which can lead to many problems. Neither of these options represent a healthy relationship with one's parents, and they will both cause many issues.
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